Pitfalls of dating after divorce
For one thing, the concept of “dating” as we know it today is nowhere mentioned in the Bible.Most marriages in Bible times were arranged, and any contact between two prospective spouses was strictly monitored.Can I start dating, or do I have to wait until the divorce is final?" Answer: The question of dating during the divorce process is difficult to answer for several reasons.Magnanimity or largeness of spirit is the final quality discussed in , and Duffy reiterates that a magnanimous person is capable of moving past hurt, even forgiving someone who has wounded them deeply.As Pope Francis says, such a person has a big heart open to God and others.In the chapter “Being Faithful,” Duffy shares her own experiences with God’s mercy in her life through Eucharistic adoration and reception of the Church’s sacraments.The reflection questions in this chapter are great points of consideration for any Catholic thinking about entering into another relationship, because as Duffy explains, “as faith grows so will confidence, trust in God, peace of mind and happy disposition.” A person at peace is a person ready to give and receive love.
God has a unique plan for each person and Duffy asks the reader to be open to discovering that plan.Learning to avoid harmful patterns and foster healthy communication skills are keys to a successful future relationship.Learning to identify particular areas of struggle and then applying a practical way to overcome those vices with the corresponding virtue is one of the many nuggets of wisdom found in this chapter.Duffy writes honestly about her own mistakes; she began dating before she was truly available both in the eyes of the Church and emotionally.
By God’s grace and some serious soul searching, she eventually did the very important work necessary to be completely available to date and fall in love.
Duffy points to three things that will help a person to discern their availability.