“You’d rather be with the first person than the second, and there’s no way of knowing whether someone will get you without spending time face to face.” Missed connections, similarly, are based on a more personal level of attraction than just swiping right on a Tinder profile.
It’s “baloney” to claim that online dating has undermined interpersonal relationships, says Rosenfeld, who considers the Craigslist posts to be a “direct analog for …
She believes the anonymous quality of missed connections is part of what makes them so appealing. We tend to believe in “interpersonal magic,” such as love at first sight, says Stanford University sociology professor Michael Rosenfeld.
“Some people will find you funny and laugh at your jokes in a way that makes you feel smart and attractive, and other people will look at you like you’re crazy when you tell the same joke,” he said.
The 24-year-old Dupont Circle resident walked past a tall, bespectacled man outside a Juan Valdez cafe few weeks ago, and they exchanged glances.
Tryst, the beloved Adams Morgan coffeehouse, used to have a missed-connections website, too.