New on the dating scene travel journals need updating
You want to know why dating is so messed up in New York? That's what Patti Stanger says she has learned since moving her Bravo hit, "The Millionaire Matchmaker," to the city this season."Coming to New York is coming home to me," says Stanger, who grew up in New Jersey and Manhattan.
"So I'm disappointed to see the terrible state of the dating scene."With the season finale airing Tuesday, she says there is a 5-to-1 ratio of single women to single men in the city and knows why."I blame the guys! IF AT FIRST YOU DON'T SUCCEED ..."Don't give up too easily! "Try a venue or event more than once, and if it doesn't work, then move on to the next thing.
" My question is: Why and how on earth could or would you have sex with someone who days, maybe even hours before, you didn't know? I don't believe that I've ever been on anything that could be considered to be a "date" until after a relationship has already begun.
However, using technology (email, MSN, text/phone etc) to get to know someone well enough to consider a relationship is something I tend to do.
To my mind, the kiwi psyche is to date with a mind to scoring and then score with a view to relationships.
That is of course unless you're trying your hand at being a player.
Dating may lead to a relationship but they're certainly not hand-in-glove like a lot of people seem to think they are in NZ. The idea that you're with someone from the word go is off. Much better I think to get to know people, decide if you like them and want it to go further and then go from there. I dont think there has to be the definitive "now youre in a relationship, now youre not" that people seem to look for.If you're just a regular Joe or Jane than it's not impossible but its not exactly that great for you I guess.Well, I have a picture of me on my Citydata profile. I want a guy who is smart, educated, funny, and not a douche.Most of the men down here are married or in a relationship or juggling several women.