Abusers frequently and embarrassingly "dress down" service providers such as waiters or cab drivers.
The abuser instantly idealizes or devalues his interlocutor.
He describes himself as intelligent, or rich, or modest, or intuitive, or creative but always excessively, implausibly, and extraordinarily so.
The abuser's biography sounds unusually rich and complex.
But they are unable to sustain even perfunctory civility and fast deteriorate to barbs and thinly-veiled hostility, to verbal or other violent displays of abuse, rage attacks, or cold detachment. Yet, at the very same time, he maintains his stance as an outsider.
The abuser seeks to be admired for his ability to integrate and ingratiate himself without investing the efforts commensurate with such an undertaking.
The abuser takes part in social interactions even mere banter condescendingly, from a position of supremacy and faux "magnanimity and largesse".
Though the abuser usually maintains sustained and piercing eye contact, he often refrains from physical proximity (he maintains his personal territory).
For instance: if the abuser talks to a psychologist, the abuser first states emphatically that he never studied psychology.
He then proceeds to make seemingly effortless use of obscure professional terms, thus demonstrating that he mastered the discipline all the same which is supposed to prove that he is exceptionally intelligent or introspective.
Abusers never admit to ignorance or to failure in any field yet, typically, they are ignorant and losers.
It is surprisingly easy to penetrate the gloss and the veneer of the abuser's self-proclaimed omniscience, success, wealth, and omnipotence. His speech is peppered with "I", "my", "myself", and "mine".Some abusive behavior patterns are a result of the patient's cultural-social context.The offender seeks to conform to cultural and social morals and norms.Abusers are an elusive breed, hard to spot, harder to pinpoint, impossible to capture.