Dating someone with a promiscuous past
Rarely have they been depicted with traditionally masculine traits.With a few exceptions, Asian men on screen have been small, sneaky and threatening — or spineless, emasculated wimps, or incompetents who may well be technically proficient in martial arts, but impotent when faced with white man’s superior strength or firepower. Even today, Asian American men complain that action heroes such as Chow Yun Fat and Jackie Chan rarely get the girl.Not because he’s a Chinese man, or because our relationship is “unique” or different. In my years, I have heard many little stories about men who have sex with as many women as possible before marriage, but when he is married, changes and remains faithful.
It’s because I’m often seen holding hands with my Chinese husband.Still, despite the odds, sterotypes and other barriers, it does happen that Chinese men and foreign women get together.It happened for me — and a growing number of other women, including bloggers such as the Local Dialect, The Downtown Diner, and Wo Ai Ni.On occasion, it even creeps into the news, like this story.