Dating a shy girl first move
My first advice is to have compassion for yourself. Do you critique (or notice) every behavior other people make?
Probably not because you are so conscious of your own actions.
There are some girls who have no problem going up to the person they like and flirting aggressively until he/she is just as obsessed with her as she is with him – if not more. I’ve gotten a lot more outgoing than I used to be, but I still describe myself as a shy person.
These girls aren’t terrified to make the first move, the thought of rejection doesn’t paralyze them, and they don’t spend a conversation blurting out awkward things and then trying to backtrack. I’ve never made the first move, ever, and when I was single, the idea of a first date made me want to crawl under a rock.
Set realistic goals and start with a new behavior you could begin today.
Building confidence by socializing can change your view of self and challenge distorted beliefs that otherwise would increase anxiety.
My point is you are not alone, so take a deep breath, be in the moment and let the conversation flow. Embrace being shy because there’s nothing wrong with it. This means going to events that make you anxious, staying for at least 45 minutes (usually anxiety will reduce after this time) and giving yourself credit for trying something different.Shyness can range from mild to moderate to hive-inducing anxiety.Some people are overwhelmed with intense and persistent fear of being judged and/or humiliated in a social situation. Social phobia can interfere with one’s social, professional and family life.Stare at your crush until they notice you, then look away really quickly and act like you weren’t just staring. Wait for your crush to talk to you rather than approach them, even when you’re dying to talk. Blush the entire time you’re talking to your crush even though you have nothing to be blushing about. Go places you know your crush will be at, not trying to stalk him/her, but just in the hopes that he/she will talk to you. Hold eye contact for a few seconds because you read you should do that, then freak out about it. Talk to him/her online a lot but when you see them in person, clam up completely.
For women who are more extroverted and gregarious, holiday parties and mixers can bring excitement.
Seeing a therapist to treat social phobia can be incredibly helpful and even alter your future by learning new skills to cope.