The number of 18- to 24-year-olds digitally dating has almost tripled from 10 percent in 2013 to about 30 percent today, according to recent data from the Pew Research Center—no surprise, considering there are now dozens of dating apps to choose from.
Plenty of people are still meeting each other the old-fashioned way (in person), but online options can make the dating pool feel a little broader and may be beneficial for those who are on the introverted side.
If only people approached dating like an economist, he thought, they’d be better off. You’ll hear what Vogt had done right, what Oyer thinks was wrong, and what happens when you update your profile, economist-style. All my Jewish friends talk about being under pressure from mum to meet a good Jewish boy or girl, but they don’t happen to be everywhere, but they’re all over J-Date.
Finally, the economist Justin Wolfers points out one of the most revolutionary benefits of online dating — finding matches in traditionally “thin” markets: WOLFERS: So I do think it’s a really big deal for young gay and lesbian men and women in otherwise homophobic areas. And I imagine this is true in other ethnic communities.
“People tend to become consumers of people where they’re always looking for the next best thing and treating people like objects,” says Brooke Sprowl, LCSW, an individual and couples therapist in Los Angeles.
“My concern is that they’re not developing the skills to go out of their comfort zone and approach someone.
In other words, busting stereotypes with your dating profile is a good thing.Also, you’ll learn just how awful a person can be and, if you’re attractive enough, still reel in the dates.First you’ll hear Stephen Dubner interview Alli Reed, a comedy writer living in Los Angeles, who conducted an experiment of sorts on Ok Cupid: So she created a fake profile for a woman she called “Aaron Carter Fan” (Aaron Carter, for the uninitiated, is the younger brother of a Backstreet Boy.) Reed loaded her profile with despicable traits (see the whole list below) but used photos of a model friend. (For more, see Reed’s article “Four Things I Learned from the Worst Online Dating Profile Ever.“) Oyer hadn’t thought much about online dating until he re-entered the dating scene himself after a long absence and was struck by the parallels between the dating markets and labor markets. Vogt opened up his Ok Cupid profile to let Oyer dissect and, theoretically, improve it.“It makes starting a conversation easier when you already know the basics [about someone] from whatever they choose to put on their profile,” says Jude K., a second-year graduate student at Nova Scotia Community College.
All that choice can be overwhelming, caution the experts.
Also, you’ll learn just how awful a person you can be and, if you’re attractive enough, still reel in the dates.