12 year age difference dating
Moreover, I often want to hide away — to avoid family functions, social outings, and not have to face people eye to eye.But I know that hiding, crying and shouting does no good; I must show up as myself, courageously and yet graciously, and be the best person I can be.We've had to ask if it's worth listening to other people’s opinions to potentially give up the best relationship we have both ever had.It amazes me that even as the world seems to be progressing and we're now openly embracing many life choices, most of us still aren't comfortable with age differences in relationships.In reality, strangers hardly know there is much of an age difference between us, and they're almost certainly unaware that the difference is about 12.5 years — an age gap that is taboo in our culture.Before I realized the depth of others' judgments about our “taboo” relationship, I first had to get over my own insecurities about being with someone over a decade younger.
Their fear over our choice to be together in actual fact has nothing to do with our loving relationship and us — it is their problem to solve.3. In times when I ask if it is all worth it, I look at him and know that I have found the person I do not want to live without.
At the beginning of our relationship, my friends were concerned that his age automatically revealed his readiness to have a long-term relationship and plan a future together.
People in our lives also expressed the fear that if we were to stay together, we may never have a “normal” life.
And, although we've been together for more than a year and a half, live together, and are planning a future with one another, individuals still find it difficult to understand why we have chosen each other.
My age has been a huge barrier for some to open their minds and hearts and get to know me simply as the person whom he loves.
So, how do I cope when the judgments become overwhelming?